Rant IV: When toys are thrown out of prams...
Hi All,
Today's motion which is making me mad is one which shocked me last week. An old friend (lets call her friend X) whom I have not been in contact with in a long time, sent me a very nasty text message on tuesday night. Fortunately I have a very understanding girlfriend who took the best part of three hours to stop me going on a sledgehammer rampage! Anyways the history behind this message is that this was a girl I was good friends with but unfortunately sided with my former best friend when me and him went our separate ways. I basically didn't like the fact that he manipulates people by telling them what they want to hear and uses them as puppets for his sick enjoyment. Basically a year on, he's still slandering me and now he's using her (friend X) to do his dirty work methinks. Well without further ado, here's the content of the message:
"Liam just heard about that delightful blog you wrote on myspace... Grow up and move on with your life you sad little boy! And next time you gutless pr*ck say it to my face! It's really sad that you have to carry on bitching after a year... And next time jen snook shows me a picture of your small p*nis expect it in your myspace blog!"
Now there's something very wrong with that in the first instance....no such blog existed! Feel free to look at my myspace blog (www.myspace.com/synyster_graves) as there is nothing written about her whatsoever. I can't understand why provoked her to say that but certainly that's not the vocabulary or the attitude acceptable for a 19 year old girl who's training to be a teacher! The fact that she said she heard about it implies she hasn't actually seen it, so she's shooting from the hip about something that she has no proof of as it simply never existed! I'm one of those people who would say something to someone's face if I had a problem and such an attack on my integrity is simply not on. Those of you who know me on here know I'm an honest person and being spoken to like that is completely out of order.
My question to everyone who reads it is should I just ignore it, after all she is still an immature teenager who is still being influenced by a manipulative loser, or should I not let this go quietly and set her straight despite the fact I know she wouldn't listen?
Any comments would be greatly appreciated.
End of rant.
Today's motion which is making me mad is one which shocked me last week. An old friend (lets call her friend X) whom I have not been in contact with in a long time, sent me a very nasty text message on tuesday night. Fortunately I have a very understanding girlfriend who took the best part of three hours to stop me going on a sledgehammer rampage! Anyways the history behind this message is that this was a girl I was good friends with but unfortunately sided with my former best friend when me and him went our separate ways. I basically didn't like the fact that he manipulates people by telling them what they want to hear and uses them as puppets for his sick enjoyment. Basically a year on, he's still slandering me and now he's using her (friend X) to do his dirty work methinks. Well without further ado, here's the content of the message:
"Liam just heard about that delightful blog you wrote on myspace... Grow up and move on with your life you sad little boy! And next time you gutless pr*ck say it to my face! It's really sad that you have to carry on bitching after a year... And next time jen snook shows me a picture of your small p*nis expect it in your myspace blog!"
Now there's something very wrong with that in the first instance....no such blog existed! Feel free to look at my myspace blog (www.myspace.com/synyster_graves) as there is nothing written about her whatsoever. I can't understand why provoked her to say that but certainly that's not the vocabulary or the attitude acceptable for a 19 year old girl who's training to be a teacher! The fact that she said she heard about it implies she hasn't actually seen it, so she's shooting from the hip about something that she has no proof of as it simply never existed! I'm one of those people who would say something to someone's face if I had a problem and such an attack on my integrity is simply not on. Those of you who know me on here know I'm an honest person and being spoken to like that is completely out of order.
My question to everyone who reads it is should I just ignore it, after all she is still an immature teenager who is still being influenced by a manipulative loser, or should I not let this go quietly and set her straight despite the fact I know she wouldn't listen?
Any comments would be greatly appreciated.
End of rant.
4 Comments:
Liam,
This is a difficult call, since I do not know you well. However, maturity must rule in a situation like this. You could ignore it and without comment from you, the problem may subside. If you do choose to comment be kind. Be wise in your choice of words. Anyone who knows you, will know you are one way and anyone who knows the other two will know what they are like also. Bad sticks together because alone, they cannot be quite as destructive.
My best advice is to really try to ignore it. For whatever reason, these people are considerably depressed people, or they would not do this. They could be reaching out for help and maybe feel abandoned by you? You need to make a judgment call, as to whether or not you care to associate with these people. Remember that the company you keep often times reflects on you and causes judgment of what you are like. Life is hard and friendships can go sour. Remember that there are only seven basic personalities, with different influences. You take the qualities you like and find them in new friends. Take note of the faults and avoid that in others. Be calm, as this signifies more maturity and more level headedness. Avoid harsh decisions or compromising your own beliefs just to please another. I don't know how I can help you, but I really wish I could. Let me know what you may need help deciding, and I will try to help out with advice. I cannot tell you what to decide though. That has to come from within you, and from the level your morals and conscience sit. Often it helps to think: If I do this, will I regret it later? Try to face your daily life by living and doing things based on reason and good sense. Avoid creating regret. Please write back and let me know how I can help out more, or if I have already.
funnytrivianna
By funnytrivianna, Aug 06 07 10:06 AM
I would tend to ignore it Liam.
12months on,does it really matter now what they think?
You have moved on also,and you have a caring girlfriend now. All that matters now is her and you. Put the past where it belongs and leave those that try to make your life unhappy in the past also!
By ELVIRA2, Aug 06 07 4:12 PM
I would ignore it too Liam. They will think that you're bothered by their comments to you if you answer.
Don't let it worry you at all, people like that are not worth your time of day.
Jo.
By drivemecrazy, Aug 06 07 4:36 PM
I really wouldn't dwell on it, Liam, but was she possibly referring to this blog and not your myspace blog?
By bionic4ever, Aug 13 07 2:48 AM