12 Weeks
Yep, both the pregnant couples I know are past the twelve week mark and I'm going to be an auntie - twice. My brother and his wife, and hubby's sister and her husband are pregnant, and both - to their embarrassment - without trying too hard about it. Little brother and his wife found out that they were five weeks pregnant three weeks after they started trying!
Of course all this good news causes pain for some, in this case hubby's brother and his wife who have been trying to have a baby for the past two years. The news for them just keeps getting worse and worse, at the last update there were now three reasons why conception was going to be hard to impossible for them, and hubby's sister - who has always been a skinny, sickly thing - is taking that really bad. She and her husband weren't even that serious about trying for a baby, they just thought that they should since they are both turning thirty this year.
Anyway, now that they are all past the 12 week mark, I told the boy that he was going to be a cousin and how special that was since he was going to be the oldest. He was so upset! Because the new babies are coming from both sides of our family, this Christmas he's no longer going to be the only child/grandchild for anyone except Mum and Dad, and - get this - we never get him the best presents! Such materialism for a six year old. But I know where he's coming from. Since he has been 'the only', uncles (especially) and grandparents have spoiled him, we spoil him. He knows how much cuter then him the babies are going to be and the only upside he could see about the entire situation is that maybe he'll be extra spoiled this birthday and Christmas because everyone feels guilty.
Yes, I am ashamed. I have raised my son to see his relatives as nothing more then gift givers. I'm overprotective, I treat him like a baby (because he is my baby), and I spoil him - and I've expected everyone else to do the same. Halfway through 2008 I realise that 2009 is going to be very different for my son. I have six months to convince him that it's a good thing.
Of course all this good news causes pain for some, in this case hubby's brother and his wife who have been trying to have a baby for the past two years. The news for them just keeps getting worse and worse, at the last update there were now three reasons why conception was going to be hard to impossible for them, and hubby's sister - who has always been a skinny, sickly thing - is taking that really bad. She and her husband weren't even that serious about trying for a baby, they just thought that they should since they are both turning thirty this year.
Anyway, now that they are all past the 12 week mark, I told the boy that he was going to be a cousin and how special that was since he was going to be the oldest. He was so upset! Because the new babies are coming from both sides of our family, this Christmas he's no longer going to be the only child/grandchild for anyone except Mum and Dad, and - get this - we never get him the best presents! Such materialism for a six year old. But I know where he's coming from. Since he has been 'the only', uncles (especially) and grandparents have spoiled him, we spoil him. He knows how much cuter then him the babies are going to be and the only upside he could see about the entire situation is that maybe he'll be extra spoiled this birthday and Christmas because everyone feels guilty.
Yes, I am ashamed. I have raised my son to see his relatives as nothing more then gift givers. I'm overprotective, I treat him like a baby (because he is my baby), and I spoil him - and I've expected everyone else to do the same. Halfway through 2008 I realise that 2009 is going to be very different for my son. I have six months to convince him that it's a good thing.
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